Monday, 19 December 2016

Your Tarot Court Card for 2017

Tarot Thrones | King of Pentacles | Druidcraft Tarot
Happy 2017!

Your Tarot Court Card Theme for 2017

Just a bit of Tarot Court Card fun to kick us off into the New Year!

Lots of tarot buzz on Social Media about THEMES for the year, as inspired by the Major Arcana card that your personal year correlates to.

To find our what your personal year card is, take your day and month of birth and and add to 37 (ie 20+17, the incoming year).

Top 10 Tarot Court Card blog posts | Tarot Thrones

4 Musketeers | BBC | Tarot Knights
Four chaps in leather.  You're welcome.

As the year draws to a shuddering ( and mostly welcome) end, I thought I'd close the year with a quick run down on the Top 10 most visited posts on my blog.

So, here they are:

10 - Slipping in at number 10 is a very tongue in cheek look at the four Musketeers from the recent BBC series and their relation to the Tarot's Knights - ooh it's all about the dashing chaps and believe me, they were very dashing indeed on the Beeb.  Not an excuse to put up pictures of handsome men in leather.  No, not at all.

Wednesday, 7 December 2016

Wizard's Tarot | Rumi Quotes

So, over on Facebook I try to do Interesting Things with court cards that help fellow readers become more confident with their court card work.

My most recent week was spent in the company of The Wizards' Tarot (Llewellyn) by Corrine Kenner which is a really pretty deck.  In fact, I must do a review of its courts for you one day soon.

Anyhoo, I decided to pair up court cards with cards from the rest of the deck and match them up with some lovely quotes by Rumi.  The exercise for all of the cards is 'Card A helps with Card B':

Saturday, 12 November 2016

Deck Review | Pagan Otherworlds Tarot

Sometimes I sign up for Kickstarter Tarot campaigns and forget all about them until a little package plops onto the doormat many months later. No such casual forgetfulness with the Pagan Otherworlds Tarot by Uusi in the US.

TABI backed this particular deck and I thought that it was worth a personal punt too, so my deck arrived and gosh - is it love at first sight or what?!

Thursday, 3 November 2016

The King of Wands | The Tarot's Bridge Card

Last week I shared A E Waite's thoughts on the King of Wands being the card that bridges the Major Arcana to the Minor Arcana.  I could almost hear Waite's derisive snort as he lowered himself to talk about the Minors.  Well, his loss is our gain!

I thought today we could take a look and see just how powerful the King of Wands can be as a bridge card and came up with a little spread purely for his use.

First, procure your deck's King of Wands card.

Monday, 31 October 2016

The Tarot Court | The Bridge card

If I were to ask you to lay out the your favourite tarot deck in order, how would you do it?

Would you lay out the Major Arcana from The Fool to The World and then dive into the Minor Arcana via an Ace from one of the suits? And work up to the 10 and then head over to the Page and end at the King before beginning at the next suit's Ace?

I reckon I'd begin with The Fool and work through them until I culminated with the King of Pentacles as the 78th card.

But that's not how A E Waite saw it.

Thursday, 6 October 2016

Beautiful Creatures Tarot | J R Rivera & Jasmine Becket-Griffith

Let's just get something sorted, right away: If you like large liquid eyes and cupid's-bow mouths, you are going to love this deck.  If you don't, well, loving it is going to be a big ask. Think 'The Crying Boy' painting meets Crowley :)

Published by Schiffer, the author of this deck is J R Rivera and the artist is Jasmine Becket-Griffith.

So let's look at the size of these cards.

They are quite chunky in the hand - I couldn't fit four of them abreast on the scanner (just under 13cm tall and under 9cm wide).

They come in a really lovely quality Schiffer presentation box along with the 151-page accompanying book.

Monday, 3 October 2016

Tarot | Noa Ikeda | One To Watch

Sometimes my friend Gav is the worst enabler in the world.  And by that I mean that he is the BEST enabler in the world.  It was Gav that alerted me to this deck by illustrator Noa Ikeda.  And now I want it.  More than oxygen.  Or Biscuits.

I love the colours and the Japanese styling of this jewel-bright deck.  So I zapped off a missive to Noa with some questions and to obtain permission to share the images of her deck's Queens.  PLEASE visit her website to check out the Major Arcana images - they are glorious.

The Queen of Swords
Here we have the Queen of Swords, who is veiled - which I really love!  We have several elements that Swords are associated with Air - wings and clouds abound!

Here we have the Queen of Cups who is simply gorgeous, decked out in her elegant white gown surrounded by watery imagery - seated in a shell with the ocean at her feet.
 This is the Queen of Pentacles, who is seated in a woodland grove with a tree as a throne. She is surrounded by earthy symbols, flowers greenery and a white rabbit.
The Queen of Wands is the epitome of a fiery Queen.  She is the only one not to wear a dress.  As in the RWS she holds a sunflower as well as her Wand of power  and a great black panther (a tad bigger than the black cat of the RWS!) dozes by her side.  She is seated in a desert-like environment.

I sent off some questions to Neo about the forthcoming deck and her court cards but she was off to an event.  Never fear, I will get the answers soon and share them here!

You can keep up with the development of Noa's deck

Monday, 26 September 2016

The King of Wands | The Power of Tarot's Bridge Card

Last week I wrote about the King of Wands and how A E Waite saw this card as the stepping stone from the glory of the Major Arcana to the mundanity of the Minor Arcana.  

Today I thought I'd expand on this and show you how I am using The King of Wands card as a result of reading Waite's insight.

Let's see how powerful he really is!

First, procure your deck's King of Wands card.

Wednesday, 10 August 2016

TABI Tarot Conference | The Day!

As one of the organisers, you need to be up bright and early to make sure that all is going according to plan.  Witness the breakfast table at 8am:

Late night in bar = this breakfast table
Yes, that's my lonesome plate of food :-D

Anyway, Caroline materialised soon afterwards and we started to get the show on the road.  Caroline manned the check-in desk and I manned the Conference room.

Every year we are supported by various publishers in our goody bags for attendees.  This year we had help from PGUK, Eddison Books, Schiffer and Carrie Paris (although Carrie's Siren's Song Lenormand is still getting printed!)

We had lots of lovely attendees this year.  In fact we sold out of places! We were joined by Kim Arnold (London) and Kirsten Buchholzer (Verbandes Tarot e V - Germany)... Barbie Davidson and Linda Marson (Australia) and Rashunda Tramble (Switzerland) .... along with the many other well-travelled TABI members!

Goody bags - with TABI branding on the front.
I *know* super posh
Our first speaker was Karen Mahony from Baba Studio and she began with a presentation about their move to Kerry from Prague and the work of the studio.  She then moved on to talking about working with the Majors and the Minors and gave us a couple of spreads to demonstrate:

Karen Mahony | Baba Studio
ps - see that li'l white adapter on the table ....
that was the source of ALL my worries the previous day
God bless the lad at the Apple Store :-D 
It was then the turn of long-time TABI member and creator of the Celtic Lenormand Oracle, Chloe McCracken.  She took us on a journey through working with a pendulum and the chakras... and the Tarot!

Chloe McCracken | Pendulum work
Now it was lunch time and everyone piled back into the dining room for a self-service that let you stock up on whatever you wanted with as many revisits to the food bar as you needed!  And dessert!!

After lunch it was over to Emily Carding to explore the use of Tarot and Sigils.  Drawing from the ability to create compound images with her Transparent Tarot and Oracle, we set out to explore making sigils using standard tarot cards.  With an amazing ritual at the end of the workshop, we had a blast!

Emily Carding | Tarot and Sigils
At afternoon coffee break we drew the raffle - with the top prizes being our kickstarter copy of Andrea Aste's Book of Shadows Tarot and a silk scarf kindly donated by Karen, from Baba Studio.  I, of course, won absolutely nothing.  I never win ANYTHING in raffles :-D

Then it was the turn of our last speaker, Julia Jeffrey who had accompanied me down from Glasgow.  Julia is the creator of The Tarot of the Hidden Realm and we had the opportunity to work with her beautiful deck, exploring various Hidden Realm spreads.

Julia Jeffrey | Tarot of the Hidden Realm
And suddenly it was allllll over!  I presented Caroline with a well-deserved art voucher for all her work - double-deserved given that all the things I had volunteered to do to take some of the weight off her, I ended up leaving back at home in my computer bag.  And Caroline, bless her cotton socks, on behalf of TABI gave me a lovely voucher for Bute School of Art - which I will very much look forward to using!!

For almost everyone it was over, but for us travelling back to Glasgow, we had one more night in Aston and then home.  And what a lovely evening that turned out to be - both our Australian attendees, Linda and Barbie, were there, as was Rashunda our attendee who was flying back to Switzerland on the Sunday.  We had a lovely .... and slightly irreverent ... bar meal and glass or two of wine to unwind.

And then on Sunday, it was the long (and not uneventful) drive back up the M6, the M74, the M8, the ferry ........ and home :)

See you next year!

Thursday, 4 August 2016

TABI Tarot Conference | 2016 | The Saga of my lap top bag - Part 1

'Back to the ferry -
and don't spare the horses!'
Although our annual Tarot gig in Birmingham didn't kick off until Friday afternoon, my journey began the previous day as I decanted my son and dog up to my mother's so that I could make an early start.

We arrived in sunny Airdrie at about 2pm and I sat with a mug of tea and chatted with my mum as Sonshine and the dog mooched about looking for things to do/eat.  At 4pm I was hit with the sudden thought: 'hey where did I put my computer bag oh jesus I have left it behind'

Friday, 15 July 2016

The Queen of Weeping

I've not been here for a while, not because anything drastic has happened (thank goodness!), but just because the gas has leaked out of my balloons. Not just my helium-filled, sparkly Tarot balloon, but all the other balloons as well.

Maybe it's because I became a veggie a few months ago.  Basically so that I could look lambs in the eye and whisper 'I don't eat you' when I take Nero on a long walk down to our nearby lochan.  I've noticed that life has kinda gone a bit flat and wrinkly round the edges - maybe it's lack of iron or something.

Blood tests will tell whether it's what I'm eating or something more long-lasting that's the cause ...

... because I am 53 in a couple of weeks.  Of course, I'm grateful that I'm still above the soil and able to feel the sun on my face and be healthy and all that jazz, but there is no doubt about it, Things Are Changing for me.

Chaps, look away now: menses talk ahead.

My Time of the Month has now become My Time of the Fortnight and my pre-menstrual moodiness seems to last for about three weeks.  And the seven day window when I'm not snapping away like an angry pike at my DH and DS I'm to be found draped theatrically over the sofa like Ellen Terry, weeping into my Snickers bars at dog food adverts and Beyonce videos.

A couple of years ago, I stopped dying my hair.  At the moment it is a sort of two-tone thing that looks as if someone has poured bleach all over my head and all the colour is draining away.  A metaphor there, I think. But I'm sticking with it because .... like it or not ..... I am ENTERING CRONEHOOD.

Evidence:  I keep signing up for afternoon art classes. Like I am suddenly going to discover that I can fall down the art rabbit hole and pop out the other end of a 6-week course and suddenly find myself a new, arty life ....  I *know* it's BEYOND PATHETIC.

On the upside, this means that one day soon, my older gal pals will initiate me into their Post Menopause Group, the DUFs Club.  The Dried Up Fannies Club.  I kid you not.  REAL NAME. My goal is to be ensconced within their ranks, safely out the other side of this hormonal maelstrom, drinking wine, eating Dairy Milk and never having to worry about the gusset of my knickers again.

Now, if I'm absolutely honest.  And I've just mentioned 'gusset' and 'knickers' in the same sentence, so we're Through The Looking Glass now, this horrible flat and foggy feeling has been swirling around my ankles for a very long time.   Longer than I've been veggie.  Longer than my hormones have been sliding about like a drunk on a skateboard.

And as the fog rises like a suffocating tide, I just seem to be getting angrier and angrier and angrier.

Maybe it's an anger borne of fear.

I know that I am on the brink of saying farewell to so many strands of my life and it scares me.

What will I be if I am not menstruating any more?
What am I now that my partner does not find me attractive?
Will we manage to make it through these choppy relationship waters?
What will I be when my son goes off to further education?
What am I without a job or career?

Drew a card to see what can help me, from the Wildwood Tarot and got this guy:

I am moving from primitive tool to sophisticated instrument.

Maybe also get viagra ;-D

Thursday, 26 May 2016

Full Moon Spread

So I thought I'd come up with a Full Moon spread for the fans of the Wildwood Tarot over there in facebookland. Am popping it here in case it might be something that you want to add to your own toolbox.

You can use any deck :)

Monday, 23 May 2016

The Sunday Times Rich List Tarot Cards | Sam Dunn

So, the Sunday Times Rich List campaign featured some cleverly updated Tarot cards, depicting some famous faces.

I got in touch with the artist behind the campaign, Sam Dunn,  and she agreed to answer some of my questions about the artwork :)

Me:   How did you get involved in the campaign?

Monday, 2 May 2016

The World In Play | Catalogue Review

The World In Play - catalogue cover
The exhibition, 'The World in Play - luxury cards 1430-1540', has now finished its run at The Met. Did you get along there to see the playing cards?  Me neither, but I have procured the next best thing ... the exhibition catalogue.

Tuesday, 26 April 2016

Astrology | The Sunday Times Rich List

Sunday Times Rich List
Richard Branson
King of Disks
OK - this isn't strictly speaking TAROT, but I'm making it into a tarot post by the end, so keep reading!

The Sunday Times Rich List (Britain and Ireland) actually looked at the birth signs of the top 1000 earners (where known).  It makes for interesting reading:

Gemini        116
Aquarius      93
Libra            82

Total Air signs   291

Pisces         91
Scorpio      71
Cancer       88

Total Water signs  250

Taurus      98
Virgo        89
Capricorn 90

Total Earth signs 277

Aries            96
Leo             106
Sagittarius 102

Total Fire signs 304

Best performing individual sign Gemini - the Air sign - The dare-devil with mental agility...... the Knight of Swords!

Worst performing individual sign Scorpio - Water sign - The diplomatic, empathetic........ King of Cups.

With a total of 1122 signs being considered (some of the top earners are in bands or partnerships, which causes there to be so many actual birth dates to consider)

Fire signs 27%
Earth signs 25%
Water signs 22%
Air signs 26%       (all figs rounded up/down to nearest whole no)

Unsurprisingly, perhaps, the assertive 'Yang' signs of Wands and Swords are the biggest earners with 53% of the overall swag bag.   The 'Yin' suits of Earth and Water on 47%.

The relationship-focussed suit of Cups has the fewest high earners in the top 1000 .....

The suit traditionally associated with the making and keeping of wealth, Pentacles, performs next worst (or third best, depending on how you look at it!)

What do you think? Time for Pentacles to hang up their crowns as the money guys?  A load of old tosh?!

Monday, 25 April 2016

The Book of Shadows Tarot | Andrea Aste

The Book of Shadows
I decided to throw caution to the wind on Friday and make a proper video deck review for this deck, The Book of Shadows Tarot.

Dear Reader, I kid you not, it took HOURS and you would NEVER know that from the 7 minute offering that I made on youtube.

I shall look at even TV adverts with new-found respect ....

Anyway, the deck that I reviewed was The Book of Shadows Tarot by Andrea Aste.

I had the good fortune to meet Andrea last year when I visited Italy with a group of nefarious ne'erdowells  Tarotists on Arnell Ando's Tarot tour.

Andrea Aste
I was hugely impressed by him.  And not just that moustache.  His drive, vision and illustrating skills fairly whipped me along with him.  So, when the kickstarter was launched, I was there, pledging.

As is my habit, I am now reviewing the court cards from the deck.  To see my review of the whole shebang about the deck, go to my youtube channel. Yars.  I haz one.  I do rabbit on somewhat .... so take a coffee and something to keep you awake.

There are two pages in the book that comes with the deck that focus on the hieroglyphs found on the cards; thus the symbols act as titles and keywords.

Initially, I thought that there was nothing to decode the symbols on the court cards.  BUT I AM MISTAKEN!!!

The Magician's decoded glyphs show me the four symbols that signify each suit. Wands is represented by a stylised two-branched tree, Coins by a spiral, Swords by three wavy lines and a scimitar and Cups by a cup.

Through additional Sherlockholmesian shenanigans, I can see that the symbol for Woman and Man and the symbol for Power show up on the Queen and King cards

Power + Man + Wand/Cup/Sword/Coin = King of suit
Power + Woman + Wand/Cup/Sword/Coin = Queen of Suit
Horse + Human Being + Wand/Cup/Sword/Coin = Knight of Suit
Human Being + Wand/Cup/Sword/Coin = Page

It's that simple.  And that clever.

The Suit of Swords
Alternative career as fashion designer entirely feasible!

The Suit of Wands
I don't know what went wrong with my scanning - too much gin, maybe? 

The Suit of Coins 

The Suit of Cups 

I think that you can still buy a copy directly from Andrea via his website (and have it signed, perhaps?!).  I understand that Lo Scarabeo, who printed the cards etc) will be distributing via their outlets too.

So, what do you think? 

Monday, 18 April 2016

Sunday Times Rich List 2016 | Tarot Cards

Last week on Facebook I shared an image promoting the Sunday Times Rich List, featuring an enticing-looking deck of Tarot cards.

Thursday, 14 April 2016

King of Swords | King of Wands

The King of Swords is a decent sort of a person, but very keen on taking action when his decisions are based on logic, knowledge and common sense.   The King of Wands is a very different animal, preferring to rely on passion and intuition to direct his steps.

When they are positioned next to each other like this, it looks as though the two Kings are very much engaged with each other.  The King of Swords, by holding his sword in his right hand, appears open to the King of Wands.  The King of Wands is entirely focussed on the King of Swords.

Elementally they are Air and Fire - a combustible combination.  It could work well to create the most enormous and fabulous fire the world has ever seen (ie brilliant teamwork and co-ordination on a project)

Swap the cards around and you have a completely different take on the situation.  The King of Wands is looking elsewhere, with his back to the King of Swords.  The King of Swords seems to be listening now to someone else, just out of sight - and of course that sword is now angled towards the King of Wands back!

Not so much of the brilliant teamwork now, is there? It's looking as though they are not listening to each other, but to other people outside of their dynamic.

Perhaps the King of Wands might be looking to the past, or his previous experiences, using them as a reference point, whereas the King of Swords is inclined to the future and new experiences?

But what would those clouds mean, that his vision of the future is not as crystal clear as he might like to think?

What do you think of their relationship?

Wednesday, 23 March 2016

Crow Moon| March 2016 |

The March full moon has a lovely selection of names that speak of the quickening of the soil and the spirit of Spring:

Sap Moon
Worm Moon
Crow Moon
Lenten Moon

I have chosen the Crow Moon to celebrate the full moon of the 23rd because I am surrounded by the flappy black blighters.

Lots of people hate them - frightening off the songbirds from the bird tables as they craftily work out how to burgle your squirrel-proof feeder.

Sunday, 20 March 2016

Tarot & Finance | Pentacles Financial Advisers | Spring Blog Hop

Welcome to the Tarot Thrones contribution to the Spring Tarot Blog! Our wrangler for this hop is Ania Marczyk.  As we the end of the Financial Year is bearing down upon us at a rate of knots, Ania wants us to talk about Tarot and Finance.

Since the Tarot Thrones blog is all about the Court Cards of the Tarot, I have opted to seek advice from the family that knows most about money, the Pentacles.

After a short confab, the Pentacles family from The Morgan Greer Tarot have come up with these little nuggets of advice ...

Words in bold are associated with their rank :)

Page of Pentacles

Look at your money in a new way

saving - even small amounts

about money (without your eyes glazing over) Financial literacy is too important to leave to other people to handle for you.

a financial diary!

The Knight of Pentacles

Financial risk-taking should err on the side of caution

Explore your financial options

What can you do re your telecoms, can you make savings?  (prompted by all that Airy communication energy!)

The Queen of Pentacles

Nurture your money - check your interest rates and change where possible.

Get on top of your household budget

Be a good guardian for your money - be alert to identity theft. You may not be actually out of pocket, but your credit rating can be adversely affected if someone gets access to your identity.

Teach other people what you have learned about making your cash grow - your other half? Your kids? 

The Queens have watery energy - Might you may be better off on a water meter rather than pay via rates?  Before you change, check to see whether you are permitted to change back if it turns out to be more spendy.

The King of Pentacles

He didn't get to where he is today by being frivolous, no matter that those grapes make you think! 

Pay off old debt - whenever you have cash materialising put it towards reducing your existing debts - mortgage, credit card, store cards etc.

Get an expert advisor/adviser 
('Parently -er is five times more commonly used than -or)  I'm hedging my bets - very Pentacly :)
The Kings display Fire energy, so here,  The King asks you to take command of your fuel bills - can you change your supplier? We did it this month and are going to halve our monthly energy spend.

The Fire energy also suggests that maybe you could quit smoking to save some cash AND care for that other, most vital of possessions - your health!

And just before you go ..... M'new book :-D  Yes! It's by ME!!!!

Click to visit Amazon UK
also for sale in other Amazon outlets :-D 

Wednesday, 16 March 2016

A Year In The Wildwood | E-book

On Saturday my new (well, let's be honest - my ONLY) e-book will be published on Amazon.

If you are familiar with the Wildwood Tarot's facebook page, you will know that for the past couple of years, I've been an Admin there and exploring each of the cards as they arise on The Wheel of The Year

A few people asked me where they could buy all the entries, and so I have now obliged by gathering them together into this little e-book.

Cover image: The Pole Star
permission kindly given by Will Worthington
The book is currently available to pre-order and I hope that if you enjoy working with The Wildwood, you will consider adding it to your library.

Version: text only

Monday, 14 March 2016

Comparative Tarot | Page of Wands

We began this Comparative Tarot session with a look at the Page of Swords, over three decks.  Today we look at the Page of Wands, trying to find common ground and extend our perceptions as to what he might mean in the decks that we use ourselves.

On the left we have the RWS Page of Wands, then the Fante Di Bastone from the Tarot of The Master (ToTM), the Knave of Batons from Dame Fortune's Tarot Wheel and finally the Page of Staffs from The Byzantine Tarot.

In the RWS we have a cloaked-up young man standing in an arid landscape.  He must be roasting hot in his hat and cloak! He gazes intently at his sprouting Wand.  Pyramids line the horizon to the right of the card.

Thursday, 10 March 2016

Exhibition | The World In Play

The King of Falcons
Stuttgart playing cards
The World In Play 1430 - 1540 is an exhibition of playing cards at The Met in New York, ending 17 April 2016.

Sadly, my pockets are empty *shows the threadbare linings* and I cannot attend.  But in an ideal world, I'd pop over for the weekend and take in a show on the Saturday night before settling down to a late night supper with some friends .... :-D

Tuesday, 8 March 2016

Women's Day | Advice from The Queens

Welcome to Women's Day!

What would these experienced women tell advise their younger selves?

CREATE your life from the stirrings of your heart.

Don't live your life trying to make other people happy...

NOURISH your mind, body and spirit.

Don't shut yourself off from nature - neither the great green world out there, nor your own ...


Don't sit on the sidelines watching life pass you by...

BELIEVE in yourself!

Don't let other people's gossip and misconceptions - about you or other people - bring you down!


What do the Queens have as advice for YOUR younger self?

Monday, 7 March 2016

Comparative Tarot | Page of Swords

I'm running a workshop for the Glasgow Tarot Meetup Group at the beginning of April on using the comparative method of working with the Tarot.  I first heard about this method from Valerie Sim and the Comparative Tarot deck that she created specially for it.

I though that it would prove an interesting exercise to do with the court cards, here on m'blog.

From the left we have the Valet d'Epee from the Camoin/Jodorowsky Marseille deck, then the Page of Swords from the Rider Waite Smith in the centre and the Valet De Spe from the Ancient Tarot of Bologna on the right.

Friday, 4 March 2016

Tarot Queens | Mothers' Day

Last year's Mother's Day Tokens
Still unspent!

Originally Mothers' Day was when people returned to their Mother Church.  These days, Mothers' Day has become a Hallmark schmaltz-fest directed at Mothers everywhere.  In the UK we have Mothering Sunday on the 6th.

Yes, we know that it's all a big commercial CON, but woe betide the child who fails to proffer up SOMETHING.

Sonshine is very partial to buying me mugs.  And the odd musical teddy-bear.  I am hopeful this year of a scented candle :)

The tarot's Queens are nurturers, guardians and teachers, but how do they mother!?

Thursday, 3 March 2016

World Book Day | 2016

In honour of World Book Day, here are some excellent tarot books that you might like to explore:

Note: The late Yoav Ben Dov's book and the Alexander Jodorowsky are for Marseille work :)

Hopefully you will see a carousel with books on it, right?!

And my own li'l offering called A Year in The Wildwood is available for all Wildwood Tarot fans :)

As is Tarot Kaizen - 100+ exercises to help turn a beautiful deck that you treated yourself to aaaages ago into a hard-working deck that you can use for readings or working for yourself.

Monday, 29 February 2016

The Pages | Handling Your Anger

I know that you will probably disagree, but honestly, the Tarot's court cards can be your friends, if you let them!

I thought I'd take a look at the Deadly Sins (surprisingly, none of them is Facebook - although it should be!) and today WRATH seemed most suitable.

Mostly I'm a peaceable sort of creature, but every now and again I can become splenetic with rage and for anyone in the vicinity (whether they are involved in the scenario or not) I am ashamed to say that I can be utterly unreasonable.

Sometimes it's not a sudden venting ... sometimes it's a low simmer that one must feed; endlessly stoking the angry fires, as Robert Burns so memorably describes the sulky, sullen Kate in his epic poem Tam O'Shanter "nursing her wrath to keep it warm."

Letting it all erupt like Vesuvius isn't good, but neither is bottling it up - that's a heart-attack waiting to happen! But I think that there are constructive ways to experience and handle anger ... and so I asked the four Pages what they had to say about it all.

So, Pages can represent beginnings and messages ... here we go!

Page of Swords

Page of Swords | US Games LtdBegin to communicate and articulate your anger.  Start to name your emotions.  It's not enough to throw plates and have a screaming match. What's REALLY behind your anger - has your ego been pricked? Are you frightened? Are you jealous? Are you embarrassed or ashamed?

Let your anger serve its purpose.  It's a message that something deeper, such as hurt or fear, needs to be addressed.

Page of Wands

Page of Wands | US Games Ltd | Tarot Thrones
Begin to exercise and be active.  Furious with facebook? Fling on your running shoes or walking boots and go for a brisk half an hour outside. Get creative with it: want to batter your husband with a frying pan? *looks guilty*  Pull on your boxing gloves and give that punch-bag a blinkin' good thumping! Exercise has been shown to reduce stress levels.

I truly believe that women do not have enough opportunities to be SAFELY aggressive - boxing, martial arts, rugby, football ... we can benefit from being really physical through play.  If in doubt, thump a pillow into submission :)

Page of Pentacles

Page of Pentacles | US Games Ltd | Tarot Thrones
Be aware of what's going on in your body.  Is your pulse up? Is your stomach in a knot? Are your shoulders so tense that they are up around your ears?!  What happens first? Can you catch your early anger signs and take control?

Getting yourself some breathing space before you respond to triggers is also helpful. The Page of Pentacles would also suggest, I think, learning to meditate, becoming mindful of the processes that you are experiencing.

Page of Cups 

Page of Cups | US Games Systems Ltd | Tarot Thrones
Begin to forgive.  Begin to be loving.

Yes, I know, how very BLEEDING HEART liberal of me :-D

Of course, it's not always appropriate to forgive - nothing can make you feel worse than some pious ninny telling you that you need to forgive someone when the only place you really want to bury the hatchet is IN THE BACK OF THEIR HEAD.

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If you can't quite stretch to forgiveness, that's fine! Begin to think about what is making you angry in a way that does not send your blood-pressure spiralling.  I cannot recommend step-by-step query process from Loving What Is by Byron Katie highly enough >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>look >>>>>

Cups are the suit of relationship and this includes your relationship with yourself.  If you can recognise that you are struggling to find ways to control your anger, and it's at such a level that you are damaging your relationships or your health, it's perfectly OK,  actually advisable, to get help from outside sources.

So there you have it - just four court cards and the most minor ones at that.  Imagine what all 16 might be able to suggest!

Do you get angry? What works for you?  *I need all the help I can get*

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